A dream, extinguished.
Committment to common goals, common methodology, mutual respect -- is only as good as the heart of the person making it. A business partnership is like marriage in that regard. And when the allegiance of one of the partners is more tightly bound to someone outside of the partnership, then, as in marriage, the committment is irretrievably broken. And like the dissolution of a marriage? It hurts.
Betrayal is not an easy experience. Which is worse: the betrayal itself, or the knowledge that your initial evaluation of the betrayer could have been so dismally off-the-mark? Though not of your sole making, betrayal has the effect of causing you to doubt yourself and your judgment, to second-guess your intuition.
And so, it ends. Abruptly. And as it does, another chapter begins. Except, there's no table of contents nor prologue to set the stage for what's next.
Please, wish us well as we struggle right now to believe in the basic good of real-life humans, and the indomitibility of the human spirit, and that doing the right thing, simply because it's the right thing to do, is STILL the right thing to do.
posted by eclectic @ 3:19 PM
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33 Comments:
I wish you well.
Doing the right thing is always the right thing, but I certainly don't need to tell you that. Betrayal should never cause self-doubt because you, eclectic, see and believe the goodness in people. That kind of trust is rare, and difficult to achieve. I hope you will not lose that. Good luck.
Good luck, honey. I'm sorry that happened. I hope you're doing okay.
I'm sorry you're hurting, and that your dream--that particular dream--has died. But good things have a way of coming out of situations like this, even if we don't recognize what they are right away.
Hang in there--I'll be thinking of you.
Man, it's hard when dreams get snuffed out. Hug to you, and hope.
maybe the smaller dreams need to be extinguished to make way for the big ones.
knocking on wood, crossing my fingers, and such.
I'm not really certain as to what is going on -- but if they're f*cking with you, then they're in for some trouble. Point me in the right direction and I'll scratch their eyes out! Of course I'll do it with love and respcet and all, but still --
Keeping good thoughts for you.
I'm sorry that someone has hurt you in this way.
I'd like to point you in the direction of a wonderful human being who has never let me down, nor has ever let me give up; you wouldn't have to go too far in order to find her.
Just go to the nearest mirror.
I wish you well in your struggle to find the basic good in all humankind.
I'll give you a start, although I can't remember his name:
This young man who was in the Winter Olympics, who won all those metals for speed skating; he turned around and gave 100% of the money he won to a charity that gives children in (I think it was, wasn't listening too carefully) Africa so that the children would be able to live and learn ways to live in peace. He won three metals. All of the prize money went to charity.
Then, there's Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King Jr.,Eleanor Roosevelt, the people who run Solomon's Porch downtown, the person who lets you in their lane during rush hour, the stranger who smiles and says good morning when you make eye contact in the supermarket...and so on.
I hope this helps. :o)
I LOVE M_D's comment.
Just go to the nearest mirror Eclectic.
You are, by far one of the most "cheerleader-ish" (and I do NOT mean that in a bad way) people I've ever (not) met. You single handedly cheer for, motivate, inspire and encourage people and I hope you know....you have the power. You really are an inspiration.
Everything you do for your family, your friends, people you've only met through blogs, etc. You are always there and you always seem to know exactly what to say.
If anyone (and I'm sure Mr. Eclectic *must* be of similar caliber to be married to a star like you) can get through this, you can.
That being said, I will send you good thoughts....and Moto (even though he's in a doggie kennel and not at home) sends you eyeball licks. Because he KNOWS you're worthy of them :-)
Hang in there My Friend. Please know how many people are behind you and your family.
Oh my sweet friend. I am so sorry this has happened. What can I do to help you? You know my email... feel free to vent as much or as little as you want too! Peace.
Oh honey - I don't know what's going on either but it's enough to know you're hurt.
You're right - you must do what's best for you and yours. Remember too that no problem is ever as permanent as the solution.
And chia, I'll find the damn light - let's go!
Eclectic, I wish there was something I could do to help.
I hope for the best, for you and yours.
Thinking of you
Shari - hope all is okay, and I second Curtis' comment about the eye scratching. Or shin kicking - I'm pretty good at that, too.
Shari, I'm sorry, I love you and I am sending warm thoughts and prayers your way.
Zuhn: You don't know how much your words mean to me, here. The self-doubt has been very, very ugly over the past 48 hours. How could I have been so blind and dumb??! But, then I realize that it's not wrong to believe the best -- it's wrong not to. Even when the best doesn't pan out. Thank you,, my friend.
Squirl: Me too, but what's the fun in living life without the occasional challenge, right? I'm okay -- and in a few weeks, it'll be better than it's been.
Sharkey: It does hurt, but things seem brighter this morning. Thanks for the encouragement!!! I think Maggie pictures might cheer me up...!
Amy: Thanks for the hug AND the hope! We're revising the dream -- check back in 6-8 weeks!!
Kat: Thanks, Kat. Dream big, huh? Yes... I like that! Hey, wanna take the Washington State Bar?
Chia: You can tell your friends by who's willing to shit in a bag for ya! Thanks for your faith in me.
Curtis: Oh good -- eye-scratching is far more effective when done with love and respect...! You sweet, lovely goofball!! How much do I love you jumping to my defense??!! Thank you! **mwah**
M/D: Darlin', you are far, far, far too kind to me! You are my living proof that the goodness of the blogosphere extends into real life!!
SoozieQ: Not fair. I'm already teetering, and then you go and say stuff like that -- you trying to make me cry? **mwah** I swear, when I see Moto I'm gonna lick HIS eyeballs!!!
Traci: Thank you so much! Wanna come be our new paralegal?
Jim: You and Chia are gonna set something on fire with that thing... c'mon, hand it over!
Dawn: Just being here for me helps, sweetie!
Jenny: Ultimately, things will be better than they have been since August. But it's a little rough right now. Shin kicking sounds about right -- shall I pencil you in for tomorrow?
Nina: Thank you for stopping by, honey! I appreciate the thoughts and prayers... especially yours. Give Mateo a kiss on the muzzle for me!
Dreams are like Kleenex. Use 'em until they're gone, and pluck another from the box. So blow baby blow!
I am so sorry this is a hard time for you. You certainly don't desrve it. It just sucks. Please take care.
Hugs!
Those who would wrong you should be forewarned that they can SUCK IT HARD.
Thank you.
I wish you the best.
Doing the right thing is always the best course of action.
Bloggy: The Russian judge gives your comment a perfect 10! THAT was hysterical -- thank you for the laugh!! Wait. You did mean blow as in "blow your nose", right? ;)
Kranki: Funny how you don't have to deserve it to experience difficulty, eh? You are my shining example of how to kick hard times to the curb with style! Thanks for your kindness, sweetie!
Bucky: Oh sure -- make me shoot coffee out my nose... Will that serve as warning enough?? I definitely feel wronged -- and not in a good way, you know, which would involve flashing butt plugs and plenty of lube. No, no... this is clearly in the "that shit ain't right" kind of way, you know, which would involve Madonna making babies with George W or something.
William: Thank you, truly. It's very hard sometimes -- but it is always the best course in the end.
Amen to that!
What MD said. It was right on target. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers, and i'll keep sending them your way.
Karma is a bitch, dont doubt that.
Woo hoo! A perfect 10! I'm going to bed before there's a recount.
hey darlin'...email me at abba92 (at) yahoo.com....gotsta axe ya somethin'. Maybe I want to ask where to leave the flaming bag of poop.
holy buckets! is that a job offer? teehee...i wish i could be of more help to you my dear. peace.
I'm sorry Electic.
You will bounce back. You are tough.
xxx
I had a bad work thing happen once...I could identify with this post.
I hope you are doing OK.
Hang in there.
Shelly
when in doubt, a kick to the babymaking equipment is always fun.
what, that might be a bit harsh?
Who told you about my baby with GW?
Dammit!
Lisabeth: Thanks, sis! Your words are healing to me, and I'm very grateful that you took the time to write them.
While you're hunting the miscreants down, it may help to know that Curtis is scratching their eyes, Jenny is kicking their shins, and Jim and Chia are starting a fire... using somewhat unorthodox methods. It should be easier to spot them in a group like that...!
M/D: Preach, sistah, PREACH! ;)
Lawbrat: Oh, I so hope Karma comes through eventually. Thanks for your encouragement. Hey, are you ready to sit for the WA bar exam yet???
Bloggy: Did you score as well in bed?? Inquiring minds want to know...
Jim: Flaming poop bags?? Great!! I'm fresh out.
Traci: Absolutely! It helps more than you know to have you here and to know that you give a damn about my little drama unfolding. Peace back to you!
Rosie: Tough like you? Because I think I would like being tough like you! Thanks, sweetie!
Shelly: Yeah, we're doing okay. Square the shoulders and start planning the next stage, y'know? Thanks for caring!
Mrtl: Word.
Matt: Harsh, yes. Appropriate, absolutely!! Thanks for stopping by.
Madonna: Girl, that shit ain't right!
Did I not comment on this...I thought I did days ago...
Much of what i feel has already been expressed...so i'll just say that I think it is good that we all have blogs to vent some of our feelings and get other peoples perspectives on them...isn't that invaluable? :)
I think so :)
Bradley
The Egel Nest
OH, FUCK. I didn't read the comments or your replies, sweetie, I'm fried and have been in blogworld way too long as is. BUT, I know. I don't know the circumstances, but I know. In my post about early memories, when I said it would be another 30 years before I really understood that humans will let you down? Someone let us, Jif and me, down in a devastating way a few years back. Hurts like a motherfucker. Talk to us?
Found your blog via Debutaunts, sorry you are hurting, but it looks like you have a great group of followers and supports. i could not say any thing more than they already did.
take one day at a time and kick butt when your ready.
peace
nancy
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